I recently joined a few forums and other platforms, to discuss personal development with like-minded people and also with those who need help. I read stories where people share their recent past, their problems and feelings asking for advice. They often feel depressed, demotivated and complain about their previous “bad”decisions that they made. They said that their lives feel like a mess, just a problem after another.
I will share this post with many of the authors of the stories, so if what I described previously seems familiar from your life, pay attention! I analysed what these people said, in order to help them, here’s what I found. The number one problem, that I identified after about 100 of these stories is this:
Lack of Purpose
This is the root cause. The symptoms are depression, lack of motivation, lack of confidence and being stuck in a loop. Sounds familiar? Don’t worry, there’s a solution!
After all this I’m surprised and here’s why. I understand that it can be hard to detect this problem in your own life, maybe that is why it is number one. But the reason why I’m surprised is because finding purpose in life is not that hard. If you disagree you are fooling yourself.
I’m not asking you to answer the age old questions of “What is the meaning of life?” and “Why are we on this planet?”. All I’m asking you is to name one thing, that you are willing to work hard for. If you want to become a better person, you have everything in you to do it. If you want to found a business, study how successful people did it and copy them. If you want a girlfriend, go out and socialise.
Set yourself a goal, that you are willing to work for. Here are some resources to help you with this:
- Here’s guide how to set goals right,
- Here’s a guide how to design a plan, that you can follow to achieve your goals,
- Here’s a guide how to crush your limiting beliefs, like “I’m not good enough” or “I will fail”,
- Here’s an eBook about how to deal with new situations and how to break out of your comfort zone
If you really want to become better and it means a lot to you give yourself purpose! Don’t wait for someone else to give purpose to you! Make the conscious decision, that you don’t want to feel miserable and depressed anymore! Not taking these steps means it was never really important to you.
True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. – Helen Keller
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About the authorGabor Hosszu is the founder and head article writer of Goals Infinite. Being passionate about personal development and helping others were the main reasons he launched this site. By trade Gabor is a mechanical engineer. His hobbies include being a chilli farmer, a video game nerd and a wannabe beer expert.