How I made the decision to better myself

Goals Infinite: How I came up with the decision to better myself

The story of a freshman

Going to college was a big change after graduation. It was a really big deal for me, and I handled it relatively well. During the first year my studies went well, I made new friends and I enjoyed myself at parties. I was one of those guys who found a good balance between partying and studying.

The second year started much rougher while I was partying more and studying less. The different problems were piling up like I didn’t have much success with the ladies that time. But the most crushing was when I got rejected from a university club that I really wanted to be a part of and worked for the past year. This made me so mad and jealous of all the people who got in. They told me I was a loud mouth and I was arrogant from time to time. I furiously disagreed.

As I was still hanging out with some of the members of the club, one of them – who was also my friend – convinced me to reapply once more. After some thinking, I gave in. I was depressed, jealous and bit mad at this point, but I was ready to give it another try.

After failures like this, my stubbornness started to wobble. Some thought started to get through this filter made from hardheadedness. What if they are right, and I am arrogant and a loud mouth from time to time? This made me unsatisfied about myself. And the thought was born: “How can I expect others to be satisfied with me if I’m not even satisfied with myself?”.  I knew I had the start changing because this attitude will not get me far in this life. The decision was born to get better.

As the weeks passed I was focusing on behaving more and more humble, without giving up my personality. The biggest commitment that I made, that I was to apologise to every who I suspected was hurt by my previous attitude. And I did, I apologised one by one. The first few was hard, then it got easier. It was still a struggle because my former stubbornness was still there in the background, but I made it through. They saw that I really meant it, and for some of them, it really meant a lot.

I stuck with my commitment and by the end of the year, my studies were back on track and the club accepted me with a 100% yes.

Why am I sharing this story with you?

First, I hope you may find some inspiration in this story. It is never too late to make a decision to better yourself, but it is hard to stick with it. Second, I’m adjusting the future content of this blog for people who already made the conscious decision to get better. This is my niching down from the general subject of achieving goals. I’ll no longer try to convince my audience to make the decision to get better. I’ll focus on the people, who already decided,  helping them to stay on track and giving the tools to do it.

If you already made the decision the get better, I’d like to ask you the sign up for our newsletter as it is a great way to keep in touch. This is a relatively new site and at this moment we don’t have funds for paid promotion, so I’d like to ask you if you found this article valuable or interesting to share it. I really appreciate your help with spreading the word.


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About the author

Gabor Hosszu is the founder and head article writer of Goals Infinite. Being passionate about personal development and helping others were the main reasons he launched this site. By trade Gabor is a mechanical engineer. His hobbies include being a chilli farmer, a video game nerd and a wannabe beer expert.


6 thoughts on “How I made the decision to better myself

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    1. Things worked out pretty well
      Sometimes I experience some setbacks, but the commitment to the change is stronger.
      I’m still on the journey today and I think I will be until the end of my life 🙂

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