Today I’d like to share a story with you in the form of a mindset case study, that made me think about how accurately my mindset represents what I want. This experience made me rethink and align my thoughts even further to make sure that I’m on the right path and going the right direction. Hopefully, it will do the same with you.
A few weeks ago, one of my colleagues shared something on facebook. It was one of those motivational pictures that have some text on top. She felt it was a relatable message to share with her friends, so that is what she did. She thought that this picture represented her mindset and her attitude accurately in a good way. When I saw it, I felt the complete opposite and I thought it represented her in a bad way. You’ll see in a minute why.
Here’s a recreated version of the image my colleague shared. As you can see, it is one of those black and white pictures that has a badass quote in the middle. I believe it is trying to represent independence, confidence and coolness. It says “I’m my own boss” or “I don’t care what you think of me”, things a rebel would say. But this is just the surface. I want you to think about what lies below, what is the deeper meaning. Think about what kind of result were you getting with such attitude. Let’s check just a few topic, how would this rebellious mindset would effect your life.
Every job has it own tasks and goals. They are needed to be done and this is why companies hire people to do it. If you are not even trying to reach these goals, you’ll be marked unproductive and the company will let you go. No one would like to employ someone who has a mindset like this. This is basically a “Don’t hire me!” bumper sticker.
People befriend others with similar thinking. With an attitude like this, you’d probably only able to befriend similar underachievers. Friends often do favours or compliment each other and I feel that this attitude doesn’t cover those. This mindset represents: “I’m a loner, I don’t want to become your friend”.
One of the defining features of a good long term relationship is mutual empathy. It is likely that without empathy we are only talking about the short term. Would empathy work with this attitude? I don’t think so.
Now let’s see some features of my colleague who share this picture online. Let’s see how does this “I don’t want to suit other people” mindset really affected her life so far. First of all, she is a divorced mom, who lives with her boyfriend who doesn’t really treat her well. Not much romance or empathy in her life, I know this because she complains a lot as well. When she talk, she’s often gossipy and she’s offended pretty easily like she is paranoid. She is in the lower-middle class and her mindset represents that very well. I believe that the quote she shared describes her life perfectly, but not the way she wanted to.
“Anyone can train to be a gladiator. What marks you out is having the mindset of a champion.” – Manu Bennett
I really hope I was able to make a good point in this mindset case study, and this article was able to make you think about or even question your own mindset. If you wish to share a thought feel free to leave a comment or write me an email, feedback is always welcome. Prehaps you can send in your mindset case study as well :).
About the authorGabor Hosszu is the founder and head article writer of Goals Infinite. Being passionate about personal development and helping others were the main reasons he launched this site. By trade Gabor is a mechanical engineer. His hobbies include being a chilli farmer, a video game nerd and a wannabe beer expert.