Today I’d like to share a story with you and this one is about mindset. By the end of this article, you’ll understand the struggle, that a poor mindset can cause and how changing it can lead to amazing results. Hopefully, this will help you adjust your mindset as well.
Ups and downs in mindset
My first full-time job seemed as a perfect opportunity. It was an engineering job at a multinational company and I was meeting a lot of new people, often from other countries. They even sent me to their foreign sites a few times and I just love seeing the world. The pay was above average and I didn’t have to work late, sounds pretty ideal, right?
After a few months, my early motivation started to fade. I started to notice the style of management was demotivating my colleagues and me. This was due to lack of order, lack of motivation and goals, ignorance, not to mention the micromanagement they were forcing on us. Soon signs of attitude, that I can only describe as “half-ass” were surfacing among the team. I started to worry, you know why?
“You are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with” – Jim Rohn
This famous quote of motivation speaker, Jim Rohn is based on the theory called Law of Averages. It states that the outcome is always the average of every possible outcome. Knowing this and seeing the mediocre performance at my workplace, I knew that I’ll soon be affected. I wanted to prepare myself to resist the incoming change. Unfortunately, I picked the wrong kind of resistance. I picked passive resistance (PR for short). Here’s how it works.
Passive resistance is the strategy of sticking with the current situation. You may believe that the current state is the best one in a short term, and this explains why you want to stick with it. You see a problem and barricade yourself from it, watching it ever vigilant to never lose sight of it. In my example, I wanted to avoid the negative effects of my workplace by trying to stay like I was before. Instead of “playing the game to win”, I was “playing not to lose”. In retrospective PR was a poor choice, because it is a mediocre, short-sighted mindset.
I started noticing a lack of motivation and a drop in performance on myself soon, no matter how hard I tried to stay my former self. It also affected my personal life. One day I was feeling a bit down and my wife asked me about my plans for the future. My mind went blank and I had no answers. This was shocking to me. I wasn’t all about setting and achieving goals before, but I always had some sort of plan in my head. But not this time and the realisation hit me in the face.
My efforts to resist change has failed and I became exactly what I was avoiding, a demotivated, mediocre individual. It felt like being at the bottom of a dark hole, no sense of direction and vision. I started noticing signs of depression and I realised, this cannot continue. The determination was born to switch my mindset and my focus. I decided to change, but this change was on my terms. I call it Active Resistance (AR for short).
Active Resistance is the strategy of moving forward. It is about changing for the better, a form a continuous improvement in your life. You have a long-term vision, about where you are heading and you move forward every day. Your focus is on what you want, instead of what you don’t want. You may ask, is active resistance really a form of resistance if it is about change? The answer is yes it is because you are resisting the present situation by moving forward. It’s playing the game to win.
The results I got with this new mindset were amazing. Setting my eyes on the person, I want to become gave me a huge boost in motivation and inspiration. I struggle no more with the daily grind as I’m working towards this goal every day. It can do the same for you. Adjust your mindset and start achieving!
Now you know the difference between AR and PR, I’d like to ask you to think about your current mindset. Are you AR or PR? Maybe semi-AR or semi-PR? How do you feel about your current mindset? What would help you improve? I’d really like to know what you got, so please share it with me in an e-mail.
About the authorGabor Hosszu is the founder and head article writer of Goals Infinite. Being passionate about personal development and helping others were the main reasons he launched this site. By trade Gabor is a mechanical engineer. His hobbies include being a chilli farmer, a video game nerd and a wannabe beer expert.